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Blurred Lines and my Opinion on Feminism. You Know you Want it

3 Jun

The ridiculously catchy song featured in this awfully cheeky video  is called Blurred Lines by Robin Thicke featuring T.I. and Pharrell Williams.  If you don’t know the song or you didn’t click the link to watch the video, you really should do so now. I’ll wait.

Was I right or what!? So catchy and that video is so bad, it’s hilarious, but in an unintentional way, I think. The ridiculously overt sexuality of all of it is, well, it’s ridiculous. Scantily clad beautiful women constantly licking their lips, and biting their fingers, and at one point there is a stuffed dog and a (real) lamb thrown in for, I don’t even know what for really.

The lyrics are… pretty…well, they’re bad. They’re just bad. I’m not going to post all of them, but this is the chorus

And that’s why I’m gon’ take a good girl
I know you want it
I know you want it
I know you want it
You’re a good girl
Can’t let it get past me
You’re far from plastic
Talk about getting blasted
I hate these blurred lines
I know you want it
I know you want it
I know you want it
But you’re a good girl
The way you grab me
Must wanna get nasty
Go ahead, get at me

My first instinct when I heard the song, besides “that sounds like Marvin Gaye” was it was misogynistic,  but I was wrong. The definition of misogyny involves the hatred of women. No hatred here.  It’s sexist, right? Granted, the video looks like it was made in a warehouse and cost about $40 total, but does the mere presence of women wearing bikinis with plastic skirts over the bottoms (can I just tell you, BAD idea) make it sexist?


noun \ˈsek-ˌsi-zəm\

Definition of SEXISM

: prejudice or discrimination based on sex; especially :discrimination against women
: behavior, conditions, or attitudes that foster stereotypes of social roles based on sex
Well, referring to women as “animals” would probably be considered fostering a stereotype of the social role of women as sex objects I presume, though he does say that the previous man in her life tried to “domesticate” her and that she presumably fought that role because she’s an “animal” but I presume switching one societal stereotype for another doesn’t make it any less sexist.
Another of my issues with the song involves this line in particular –
You wanna hug me
Hey, hey, hey
What rhymes with hug me?
“Snug me”, ‘bug me”, “slug me”, all acceptable rhymes. “Fuck me”, however, is not, and I presume that is where they were going with that.

My biggest problem with the song is the whole “blurred lines” concept, like a woman can’t be a “good girl” if she “want(s) it” (and for the sake of argument, let’s just assume sex is “it”).My views on feminism, and I appreciate your patience up to this point because I know you have been waiting breathlessly for this part, is that a woman can be whatever she wants, and do whatever she is comfortable doing.  If a woman wants to be a Jedi in the streets and a Sith in the sheets (like you needed any more proof of my nerdiness) or vise versa, or any or no combination of those words,  then have at it, and make those terms mean whatever you want them to mean. Women can work, they can choose not to work, they can get married, they can choose not to get married, they can have a lot of sex, they can abstain from having sex, and so on and so on. Not one of these choices make a woman less of a woman.

I have read far too many comments in regards to this video about the “sluttiness” of the women (and apparently there is a topless version that was banned from YouTube). I don’t agree when women who are portrayed as sexual beings are also viewed as something “bad” or “slutty”. The crux of feminism to me hinges on this concept. Women should  be allowed to behave  in whatever capacity they are comfortable without being called names or being told they are setting back the women’s movement when they dress or behave a certain way. I see this when women insult other women for what they are wearing ALL THE TIME. You cannot judge a person by their clothes, but let’s say that woman in the short shorts and halter top does have a lot of sex. So what?

I will say, I think men are exposed to a lot of this crap too as far as how society defines what makes a “man” and all that. Sorry, guys. I’ll write about that another time.

So in conclusion, yes, that song is sexist, the video is silly, and part of feminism is respecting other women’s choices.  Nowhere in the definition of feminism does it say “must adhere to stringent rules and wear comfortable and sensible foot wear or will be accused of setting back the women’s movement and will be kicked out of the sisterhood.”

Definition of FEMINISM
: the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes
: organized activity on behalf of women’s rights and interests
J. A. Allen

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